Marriage Really Isn’t Forever

When I was a young mom, people would often tell  me that time would fly by and not to miss their younger years because before I knew it, they would be all grown up. It really is true. I can’t believe I have a 17 year old already!! Wasn’t I just that age not too long ago?

I’ve been thinking about something lately. No one ever tells you that your marriage isn’t forever either. I mean, we can be married for 20, 30, 40, 50 or 60 years. That is a LONG time. But have you ever thought that once we get to heaven, we are no longer married to our husbands? We will know them, recognize them, but our love and adoration and marriage will be to Jesus.

That realization made me really sad. I have always taken comfort in knowing that though death will separate us, we will be together again. Then I realized that yes, I will see my husband in heaven, thank God. But our life together will never be what it is now. Death WILL end our marriage.  It brought a fresh wave of grief over me.

I know I am supposed to be longing for that day when I see Jesus, and I am. But this is a facet to the treasure I seek, that I never thought of before.

When an older mom reminds you not to take your children’s younger years for granted, it is because they want you to treasure the short time you get to spend with your children. As moms, we have only a short time to love them, train them, and nurture them. But do we ever think of our marriage that way?

Scott and I talked about this the other day. We both cried. We both wish we had been more understanding of how precious and short our marriage is. How this life time commitment is really only for a life time,and in light of eternity, that is a pretty short time.

Scott is my best friend, my lover, my soul mate, my everything. I share a part of myself with him, and him with me that we don’t with anyone else. It’s so precious!

His disease is slowly taking that away from me, and someday it will be gone. Even now, he can’t hug me anymore without me helping him put his arms around me. As I watch it slowly slip away, I realize how short of a time I have to love, honor and cherish this gift God has given me.

Because we will never be this way again.

So no one else may say it, but I will. Marriage isn’t forever folks. We have this only for a short time. We have this life time only to love on our husbands as only a wife can. To have those beautiful,  close, intimate, moments with our husbands that will never be again once death separates us.

Don’t spend your time wishing it away.

Or grumbling.

Or fighting.

Or holding grudges.

Or thinking of all the things he does to annoy you.

You don’t have forever to make up for it.

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